Competitive Womanhood is Exceedingly Boring

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Feminism, Indentity, Women's Wisdom, Workshops Leave a Comment

That is the status update I felt compelled to post on facebook this morning. What inspired it? Well, that may take a few blog posts to explain.

The issue of competitiveness comes up as a theme from time to time. I have written about it before on my personal blog. Competitive: The Other “C” Word. You can read a longer explanation of my perspective on competition. 

“You can live happily in this competitive world
only if you yourself are not competitive’ (ibid.).”


Every time the issue comes up I re-examine my own dance with competition. It also makes me hyper sensitive to competitiveness around me.

Why are many women always looking over their shoulder to see if some other woman has longer hair, fuller breasts? Why do some women belittle other women’s accomplishments and laud their own, all in the same breath? Well, let’s discuss that in the coming weeks.

Bottom line is, I have no tolerance at all for women trying to one up each other to show that they are the most womanly. It’s subtle and self defeating. I call this Competitive Womanhood.

My dad responded to my facebook post so profoundly that I was inspired to write this post. It says everything I could have written about in two sentences.

“competitive womanhood is a page taken from the fearful man’s oppression notebook. the non-fearful person reads from the women’s field guide for living as a human person. ~William Huston Wilkinson

Do you see Competitive Womanhood around you? What does it look like to you? How do you react? Do you give in to it from time to time? I would love to hear your thoughts.

This is the first in a series of posts about “Competitive Womanhood”. Stay tuned…

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