H is for the Pursuit of Happiness

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Women's Wisdom, Workshops 2 Comments

Happiness… Remember the Wil Smith movie happiness where he was pursuing wealth and success and realized happiness had been there all along in his son and the simple things in life? Once he decided to be happy without all the trimmings, success came. That’s how it works. It’s THAT simple. Really, I am not kidding. Once you decide to be content with who and what is in your life and pursue your passion and not money, fame or accolades…you will find great peace of mind and fulfillment=happiness. I could tell you a million personal stories, but I want to keep …

G is for “The Girl Effect” & Girl Power Songs

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Feminism, Music for Girls, Women's Wisdom 6 Comments

  The Girl Effect is working to help young women in developing countries change their future.  The Girl Effect is a MOVEMENT. It’s about about ending poverty. And it’s about doing so by investing in girls. Learn. Explore. And get involved. I dare you. The Girl Effect is social change in action. It’s about you using your voice, your talents, and your community to help girls help themselves—and, as a result, everybody else. An adolescent girl has the power to stop poverty before it starts. But she needs your help. She needs information, healthcare, and education. She needs laws to change, money …


F is for the “F” Word

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Feminism, Indentity, Women's Wisdom 4 Comments

Feminism! Female! Are these the “F” words? Sometimes.  As I sit here surfing the interwebs for resources and ideas for the Smart Girl, Wise Woman curriculum, I am struck by a few things. I am reading articles found through web crawling through article after article and empowerment blog after blog. Many voices are silent. Many voices overshadowed by ceratin themes. Contrary to the “fears” of men, an empowered woman does not necessarily need to become a witch or a lesbian or hate men. Women come in all shapes and sizes, colors and politics. The feminist movement is often viewed as being …


M is for “Me: Reinvented”

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My life wasn’t perfect. I grew up in the ghetto, without knowing my birth father. I didn’t have the best relationship with my mother or stepfather. I often felt alone, although I had friends. But moving around a lot made it hard to maintain friendships. I witnessed violence in the home in the form of domestic violence and corporal punishment. I was the receiver of verbal abuse. But despite it all, I didn’t grow up a statistic of my circumstances; a high school dropout, a gang affiliate, a teen parent. In fact, I am the only member of my family …

E is for Endings aka Pressing the Reset Button

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Relationships, Women's Wisdom Leave a Comment

Endings don’t always mean that you have to walk away completely. “Ending” can mean pressing the reset button but refusing to continue a pattern. A Divorce is an ending that is final. Quitting a job is an ending that cannot be undone. But are there times when you really want to end a part something but maintain the THING itself? An example would a divorce where you keep the friendship with your ex. OR…quitting your horrible job but still going out to happy hour with your old co-workers. Sounds doable, right? How about something more complex? What if I suggested ending …

D is for Detachment from Insane Situations

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Detachment is almost as hard as surrender. Detachment is sometimes the only way you can stay sane in insane situations.  An insane situation can be a work environment that you can’t quite leave yet, a family that seems more toxic than loving or a relationship has become difficult but you are not ready to just let it go. detachment  n 1. indifference to other people or to one’s surroundings; aloofness 2. (Psychology) freedom from self-interest or bias; disinterest 3. the act of disengaging or separating something 4. the condition of being disengaged or separated; disconnection Let me tell you a little story… I once had a job …


C is for Changing the Woman you See in The Mirror

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Gather the Women, Women's Wisdom, Workshops 4 Comments

No, I am not talking about the change in between the couch cushions.  No, I am not talking about changing your hair color or losing weight. No, I am not talking about just changing your wardrobe. How about changing the course your life is taking?  You wake up each day and look at yourself in the mirror. Well, I know I do. Who are you looking at? Are you looking at a victim or a survivor? Are you looking at your father’s/mother’s/society’s version of you? OR Are you looking at a woman who knows who she is and what her passions are? I sure …


All of the Above: B is for “Being a whole Person”

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Indentity, Women's Wisdom Leave a Comment

Originally posted at: thanks to the work of Prof Yaba Blay Posted here as part of the A to Z Challenge. I am a whole person, not just that half that makes you comfortable. In college, I was one of three women co-coordinators of the African American Cultural Society. The other two women both had two black parents, yet there was NO line between us. We did good works and had a fantastic time. I never heard any whispers about why I was in that position. One day, a German/Irish woman in my Honors Latina Writers class told me that by calling myself …