Competitive Womanhood is Exceedingly Boring

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That is the status update I felt compelled to post on facebook this morning. What inspired it? Well, that may take a few blog posts to explain. The issue of competitiveness comes up as a theme from time to time. I have written about it before on my personal blog. Competitive: The Other “C” Word. You can read a longer explanation of my perspective on competition.  “You can live happily in this competitive world only if you yourself are not competitive’ (ibid.).” ~Khrishnamurti Every time the issue comes up I re-examine my own dance with competition. It also makes me hyper sensitive to competitiveness around me. Why …

Buying the “Perfect” You

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Beauty, Indentity, Media Messages, Women's Wisdom 1 Comment

Can a girl or woman really buy her way to happiness? One of the biggest issues we deal with as women is media messaging. We are inundated with from the moment we start to consume mainstream media…television…toys…games…music…etc, as little girls. It has been proven that girls only need to watch 3 minutes of media or read a women’s/teen magazine for 3 minutes in order to feel bad about their bodies. It is disturbing to know that the world starts judging our bodies at birth.  Smart Girl, Wise Woman has a workshop on Media Messages, but this topic could be an 8 week curriculum all …


What My Mother Taught Me

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Indentity, Relationships, Women's Wisdom, Workshops 2 Comments

Originally posted, Mother’s Day 2011 on my personal blog. Mothers and Daughters  The relationship between mothers and daughters can be a difficult one. When I talk to friends and acquaintances about our mothers I am often reminded about how blessed I am to have the special relationship I have with my mother, Eileen. On this Mother’s Day 2011 I want to state this plainly. Now, I am not saying it has always been butterflies and unicorns. We went through the classic difficult pre-teen and teen years. I am a Cancer, so I was quite the emotional young woman and my …


Itching for a Change: Hair

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Beauty, Indentity, Women's Wisdom, Workshops 5 Comments

Maybe it is just because I am a Cancer, but every once in a while I itch wildly for a change. Sometimes the itch is so overhwleming I get impulsive. When I feel a strong pull to change my hair, I really have to hold back that impulse as I ahve been known to go straight to a hair salon and do drastic and permenant “change” to my hair. Like the time I wanted to be pat Benatar back when I was 19 and I shaved the right side of my hair really short.   <—- Like this (this is not me, btw)….  It looked …


N is for Next Steps Towards Being the Real You

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Indentity, Women's Wisdom, Workshops 2 Comments

Sometimes, Putting one Foot in Front of the Other is the Hardest Part Whether you are 18 or 80, you can be faced with a moment when you need to re-invent yourself like Danita did. Our childhood experience, environment and circumstances can have us erroneously believing that making a big change is too difficult, scary or we just don’t deserve it. So, what are the barriers to taking action towards the new you? For me, the hardest part is the first step. Ever get the feeling that you must jump into the frying pan with both feet. That’s a pretty scary feeling for me. Who wants to get burned? But, …


F is for the “F” Word

Tatyanna M. Wilkinson Feminism, Indentity, Women's Wisdom 4 Comments

Feminism! Female! Are these the “F” words? Sometimes.  As I sit here surfing the interwebs for resources and ideas for the Smart Girl, Wise Woman curriculum, I am struck by a few things. I am reading articles found through web crawling through article after article and empowerment blog after blog. Many voices are silent. Many voices overshadowed by ceratin themes. Contrary to the “fears” of men, an empowered woman does not necessarily need to become a witch or a lesbian or hate men. Women come in all shapes and sizes, colors and politics. The feminist movement is often viewed as being …


M is for “Me: Reinvented”

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My life wasn’t perfect. I grew up in the ghetto, without knowing my birth father. I didn’t have the best relationship with my mother or stepfather. I often felt alone, although I had friends. But moving around a lot made it hard to maintain friendships. I witnessed violence in the home in the form of domestic violence and corporal punishment. I was the receiver of verbal abuse. But despite it all, I didn’t grow up a statistic of my circumstances; a high school dropout, a gang affiliate, a teen parent. In fact, I am the only member of my family …


All of the Above: B is for “Being a whole Person”

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Originally posted at: thanks to the work of Prof Yaba Blay Posted here as part of the A to Z Challenge. I am a whole person, not just that half that makes you comfortable. In college, I was one of three women co-coordinators of the African American Cultural Society. The other two women both had two black parents, yet there was NO line between us. We did good works and had a fantastic time. I never heard any whispers about why I was in that position. One day, a German/Irish woman in my Honors Latina Writers class told me that by calling myself …